Date Night

     When people first start dating they spend a lot of time together, whether it’s going out or staying in its time spent together which is and are you ready for this A DATE. As time goes on the dates become far and few between it’s almost like people feel like it’s no longer necessary, they think that they put their time in and don’t have to try anymore or maybe they just get comfortable. Some people do not understand that a relationship is work no correction it’s the hardest job you will ever have and when things are going well you don’t even realize that its work, that is until a hic-up arises and you have to work to fix it. I have to admit I did have inspiration for this entry I was talking a friend off a ledge of feminine craziness I will call her “Rose” (such a delicate name isn’t it), she could feel things falling apart and she has read my blog so she asked for my advice. The first thing out of my mouth was “do you guys ever have date night”? The first thing she said was “I’m waiting for Friday when I get paid the finances aren’t really there till then”. Then something hit me the fact that people have become so brainwashed by society that they have forgotten true romance comes from your heart and soul not a pay cheque. I suggested getting up just a little earlier to make tea for him make time to talk in the morning kiss him good bye, maybe call through the day and say something sweet then go home and make dinner, eat at the table not on the couch in front of the TV listen to some music maybe watch a movie after. Guess what my friends THAT is considered a date night. I hope she took my advice I mean don’t get me wrong it won’t change things right away it may take time, but see if it never stopped you wouldn’t have to worry about it. I do however realize that some relationships happen so fast that there really isn’t any dating going on and in that case all I can say is it is NEVER too late to show someone you care. I was talking to one of my friends about this topic I needed to know what a guy thought about the whole “date night” thing, and what he thought consisted of a date night. I have decided to call him “Jason” for privacy reasons. I started out by asking “how important is a date night to you in a relationship? What do you consider a date night”? he replied with this “Well. I'm not sure what to consider a date, but I know from my passed relationships we would always go for dinner or mini golf, the movies or just stay in and cuddle watching a movie. So for me doing stuff like that is fun and I never thought of it as a "date". Maybe it is but for me it is important to be able to go out with your special someone”. That answer seems fair enough right but I wasn’t quite happy enough so I asked “Do you think date night is important in a relationship” He came back with “I guess it would depend on the individuals I don't think it'll make or break the relationship. I don't even know what's considered a date I've never really thought about it, as far as its importance I can't support an argument either way. I guess for me it is important. But I don't know why”. See quite a few people don’t understand the importance of dating really they just figure they are hanging out, and then when things get serious those important moments spent together usually dwindle away. This in my eyes is a sad realization. It’s true though it seems less effort is put into the relationships as time goes on. It doesn’t mean we care any less it just means we’ve slipped.

So here’s the question of the day. Are date nights becoming a thing of the past or do you think they are one of the very important keys to a long lasting healthy loving relationship?