TIME FRAMES
This is a topic I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. We have all been there you know when you’re starting to date a new prospect and one of you say something like “let’s take things slow”. I'm starting to think that no matter what speed you take things whether it’s fast or slow if there is a possibility for feelings to develop they will regardless of the speed you take, you can go slow and play it cool, hang out every now and then but you can’t avoid the inevitable fact that it may end poorly, however; on the other hand he/she may be “the one” but that is the risk you run looking for love, I think that the way a relationship starts is key. See if you start seeing someone new and you sleep with them right away does the relationship grow on a strictly physical basis, and does it make it any less important? See if you wait a bit and get to know each other and find out who they are on a personal level, and hang out you know build an emotional connection first, do you think that the relationship will stand a better chance? Does an emotional connection make for a stronger relationship?
So the question is; do you think it’s a possibility a relationship that starts with sex is taken as seriously as a relationship that is built out of emotion? Maybe we just over think the whole situation you know instead of letting things go and let the chips fall where they may, what do you think?
Hey Crystal!! Good to see your writing again! The thing I have found in my own life is that sex can change things in a relationship. What makes the difference is how long you've been single and whether you have had sex with anyone outside of a relationship. The longer I have gone single and celibate the longer I want to wait when I find someone I’m interested in. I don’t know how long it’s been for you, but if your asking these questions it seems like it might have been a while! I think sex should be an extension of your love not something that becomes consuming. Personally I would wait at least three months if I had any doubts. The thing is, you may regret not waiting if it turns out to be lust and not true love. Plus if it is your friend you were talking of in an earlier post, will it be worth possibly losing what you have? If it is true love he will put a ring on your finger first!! Further more if it is true love....There will be no stopping the momentum of your love, even if you want to!!! BTW your thoughts inspirer me deeply! I feel like your in my head as well!!
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