Can We Be Just Friends???

Does this title sound like something you have ever said or heard? If so then you’re not alone this is a very popular question usually asked in one of these two scenarios. In the first one I will use the names “Jenny and Bill” they are a couple that have been together for a couple years and unfortunately they break up, Jenny doesn’t want to be with Bill anymore she just feels they have grown apart, she still loves him as a person and asks him “can we still  friends”? At the moment Bill just wants to be part of her life so he says “sure” and they talk on the phone, hang out with other friends and things seem to be going great. Then one night Bill has a little too much to drink and starts talking to a good friend of his about what’s bugging him, “I can’t do this anymore man, I cannot just be friends with Jenny I am in love with her and I can’t pretend that I’m not” so gradually they stop talking, and stop hanging out and then it’s over. See when you break up like that and remain friends is it possible to get over the hurt and mend your broken heart with the person that broke it so close? Is the distance a good thing?

The second scenario is also something that happens more often than not, and that is when a friend falls in love with another friend. That is something that you never plan it just happens and when it does happen you have to ask yourself this question “can we still be friends”? It is a hard situation because they are your friends and you just want to see them happy, but can’t see them with their girlfriends/boyfriends, or hitting on other people. Also you’re afraid to tell your friend about the feelings you’re having because you don’t want to take the chance on ruining your friendship so you compartmentalize it and say “I’d rather have them as friends than not have them at all". At the same time telling your friend how you feel and what’s going on is also a good thing I mean you never know what can happen. 

     See I don't understand why some people find it so surprising that you could fall in love with a friend, you spend so much time with that person and you know all their secrets, who knows you better than your friends? 

So here’s my question to you; Is it really possible to continue being friends with a friend that you are in love with, or is in love with you????