Hurting Possibilities

This entry is for any one that has never really had a chance to get into the dating scene because they have always been in a long term relationship. Most people date for a bit and get hurt and jump right back on the saddle and keep going, don’t get me wrong the pain still hurts but it’s different. When you are in a long term relationship with someone and I’m talking a year or longer there is generally a lot more invested emotionally, it’s almost like the two of you stop functioning as two separate people and start working as one. So when that connection ends I’m not going to say the pain is any worse but it’s definitely different and anyone that’s had it happen to them knows what I mean. The thing about once your heart has been broken so badly by the person you love whether it was once or multiple times it makes some people a little timid, afraid to put themselves back out on the market emotionally. A lot of people have walls up after a heart break and the more it happens to them the thicker their wall gets, it acts like a security system and for some once the bells start going off they just run in the other direction, not because they don’t want the feeling of being loved or because they don’t want to give the love they have, it’s because they are just so terrified of the possibility of being hurt again. Then you get some people that just swallow the pain and think it’s forgotten about, until someone else comes along and reminds them all over again.

We can’t forget about the huge issue of trust, see when your boyfriend/girlfriend decided it’s over they are not only breaking your heart but also… your trust. You trusted them with your heart and they broke it, so it has to make you wonder when your healing from a broken heart are you also healing from a breach of trust? That makes me wonder which one takes longer to heal from, is it your heart or your trust?

So here's my question to you; do you remember when your parents use to say things like the world is full of possibilities you can do anything with it, well do you think that having your heart broken multiple times and your trust broken each time do you think that possibility might be closed to you?