Sacrifice or compromise???

     Today I am going to write about sacrifice…how much is too much??? Everyone in general has dreams and ideals for what they want their future to hold and like everything else as life goes on and changes so do your ideals, whether it’s because of work or kids it happens and sometimes you don’t even notice the change till something comes up. I was once told something by a very wise man who I will call “Pops” and I will quote him “sacrifice is worth it if you love your partner”. See the only thing I do not understand is why should sacrifice have to come with love? There are so many different scenarios that can happen I am going to name the two most common.  First is work maybe one of you get a great job opportunity in another city and it requires moving, one of you will have to give something up whether it’s the great job or you’re the one that loses a job either way there is a sacrifice. The other most common one is kids, sure at the beginning you both wanted kids, but like I said earlier life gets in the way sometimes and one of you have to give up on having children. Now a really great friend of mine said something to me last night on this subject that impacted me so much that I deleted all 1000 words that I had already typed out and I started all over again. We will call him “Mr. Optimistic”; it made me rethink my entire outlook on the subject. It was only one little sentence; “sacrifice could be something big like leaving a job and moving with them or as small as watching their favorite TV show, sacrifice could also be called compromise”. When I read that word compromise I realized that sacrifice isn’t a part of love compromise is. So while you may be upset at the time you have to ask yourself… would you do it for your partner? If the answer is “no” then there is a much bigger question that you need to be asking yourself?


     Now a day’s marriages don’t last very long the economy has made it way to easy to run away from your problems but that’s a whole different entry. The point is once you made the compromise and then something happens and you end up divorced, you will have lost the opportunity with your dream job, or your old job; maybe you didn’t get the kid(s) you wanted either way you’ve lost out and that is a sacrifice. Now that you’re not with that partner anymore for whatever reason that may be you have to deal with it, but how? Do you just simply compartmentalize the whole thing, put it in a box and bury it deep down, try to forget about it? Maybe we are just supposed to build a bridge and get over it.  I don't know but there is a saying and I do believe the saying goes “forgive and forget” well for most the forgiving can be done they just remind themselves they did it for love, but how can you forget?

So my question to you is; how do you justify giving someone that loves you your world, when there is a chance it might come crashing down and your only left with the sacrifices?